Blueprint for Professionals with CPD
Working with Men or Working with Women.
Who is it for?
Blueprint has two separte programmes for professionals working with or wishing to work more effectively with men or women who are living with, or have lived with, abuse from their partner. You may be a professional who works with families, you may be working in a supportive role with an individual within a family and want to develop more awareness on how to engage men or women to address their own personal issues?
You may feel that you wish to develop further tools and techniques you’ve developed over the years and/or wish to brush up on further advances on working with men or women living with abuse. You may wish to gain career personal development in your own professional field.
You may even be a professional who has referred a client onto one of our male or female individual programmes who are living with abuse and wish to experience the Blueprint program yourself. This program can be used in conjunction with the male or female living with abuse program, if as a professional you wish to take the course at the same time as the person you are supporting.
What is it?
Blueprint is an online program you can complete in privacy and in your own time. It consists of four modules that explore different aspects of interpersonal relationships.
The individual learning time can vary but we would suggest that it will take 16 – 20 hours in total to complete. It will also enable exploration of personal knowledge and development and instil further confidence in working with men who are living with abuse. Blueprint has been developed by facilitators whilst working with men and women who have lived with and displayed abusive behaviours as well as developing services for men and women living with abuse.
The program has been tested and delivered for professionals in Probation, Social Services, Flying Start, Woman’s Aid and 3rd Sector agencies such as victim services.
The male program was written by a man who lived with abuse. It supports professional to explore themselves and their working relationship, whilst giving hints and tips to ask yourself ‘what is happening in the room’? ‘What am I not seeing’? And help you to understand more fully the dynamics of men who are living or have been in an abusive relationship.
The female program has been delivered for a number of years to women and has been evaulated by Cardiff MET.
Blueprint has at its foundation the development of awareness. Awareness of what drives us as people, the needs and expectations within relationships, and how things can become dysfunctional and even dangerous. As a professional working through the modules you will also develop and understanding of your own impact of working with families and the part you play in developing relationships and how you can drive the change that is needed.
Why do it?
We want you to become aware enough to ask of your clients within your working relationship ‘What is really going on?’
The awareness gained by carefully working through the program, can enable you to become conscious of your own needs; these needs are the drivers in your working relationships.
It’s vital that you gain some clarity around yourself and your working relationship. This can be difficult, as abuse behaviours in a relationship cause drama, misperception and confusion. Also, when you are living with abuse you are not yourself, you are not thinking clearly and your emotions are overly aroused.
As a professional working through this program you will be able to see why men find it difficult to disclose abuse. Only 10% of male victims will tell the police, only 23% will tell an official person and only 11% will tell a health professional. By taking this program you will be able to explore more fully with the person you’re working with how you can support them and work with them to disclose and make more resourceful decisions.
After a while, you can become someone just ‘living with abuse’. And you can still be ‘living with abuse’ even after leaving the relationship. As a professional you will be able to support men and women to look at moving forward.
By becoming more aware of your needs as a professional you gain perspective and understanding. This understanding brings about some emotional and mental space with which to view your working relationship from a more detached perspective. Giving you clarity and expertise on working with men and women who are living with abuse.
When to do it?
Whether you are supporting men or women who are in an abusive relationship or have left, awareness of what happened is vital. This is because by becoming conscious that they maybe in a dangerous and dysfunctional relationship, you being the process of de-legitimisation of their behaviours, and supporting them to take the crucial first step in making a very personal and real choice about what they wish to do.
Without this awareness, they may be tempted to reframe the incidents as ‘one offs’, just the same as any other couple, just the way they are or even ‘maybe I need to change’, ‘maybe it’s because of me’, ‘I need to stay because of the children’, ‘no-one will believe me’, ‘I should ‘man up’ - and an endless list of minimising and denying.
They may have left the relationship but wish to gain some closure. You may be thinking about a client you are working with that is displaying behaviours that you think have been due to a past abusive relationship and are wondering how you can support them to move on and gain clarity.
Who should do it?
Ultimately, with all the best will in the world of others, the only person that can change an abusive situation or living with a sue is the person living with abuse.
They will only do this when they realise that firstly something is wrong with their relationship and secondly that maintaining the status quo is more painful than beginning to make changes.
As a professional it can be difficult to hear or understand that staying in an abusive situation never works. Ever. It can only get worse. But often men and women will still for many reasons and as a professional all we can do is engage the person we are working with to gain an insight into what is happening and to create a safe space for disclosure.
Blueprint will help you understand:
What needs are being met when men and women remain living with abuse
What are the payoff for staying there is (there is always a payoff)
That you can begin the process of exploration of who you are and what you want as a professional
You can support men and men make healthy, life affirming decisions through clearer perspectives and greater understanding of them
How to deal honestly with the person who is displaying the abusive behaviour.
How you can gain an insight into your own part when working with men and women
How working with means women living with abuse can have an impact working with the whole family
Blueprint, if explored and worked through carefully and willingly, will enable a new level of awareness. I know this, because it’s what I used over the years to extricate myself from the ravages of an extremely violent and abusive relationship. And how as a professional by exploring the modules you will gain a better understanding of victimhood and how you can implement the tools and techniques to be more effective in your profession.
The material in the program has been tried and tested by many, many men and women that we have worked with. Like anything it’s not a miracle cure, and it will take courage and work to get the results. You are exploring yourself after all, and that isn’t a walk in the park, as you can become conscious of things about yourself that you hadn’t even considered.
But it is a journey you can begin, and the understanding of how abuse that men have lived with can act as a catalyst for genuinely positive change and how you can drive to make this change happen.
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BLUEPRINT ONLINE PROGRAMMES
Blueprint offers 2 programmes for professionals wishing to work with or work more effectively with men or women, who are living with, or have lived with, abuse from their partner. You may be a professional who works with families, you may be working in a supportive role with an individual within a family and want to develop more awareness on how to engage men or women to address their own personal issues.
Blueprint also offers 2 programmes for individual men and women who want to become more aware of their situation and develop tools and techniques to help themselves and move on if they wish to after living with abuse from current or past partner.
These programmes can be used together in a supported environment between a professional and an individual if they wish to do so, to support each other and encourage open communication and learning from both sides on impact on living with abuse and how professionals can support you in your choices and become more aware of what help and support is available.
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